Month: August 2015

Five Ways to Stop Being a People Pleaser

Hi there, I’m sorry in advance that this isn’t really a fashion related post lol but I think it’s pretty important if you’re looking to get into the fashion industry or any industry really [I think it’s an important life skill!]. To be honest, I know so many of my friends who are guilty of this (as am I!) and I thought that I would finally write this because GODDAMN I have so much to say about this.

Before we start though, let’s have a quick small checklist quiz thing to see if you actually are a people pleaser or not.

  1. You have a hard time saying “no” to people’s requests.
  2. Even if this is at the detriment of your own time and resources.
  3. When you do say no, you feel {horribly} guilty.
  4. You may seem to make friends easily, but some of them only talk to you to ask for a favour.
  5. You are scared of what will happen when you refuse a request
  6. You don’t want want people to hate you
  7. You don’t want to let people down
  8. You don’t have great confidence in yourself and/or your appearance
  9. You love to help others out but feel as if sometimes people don’t always help you out
  10. You hate drama to the point where you won’t say anything such as your opinions or make a firm decision
  11. You’re upset when you find out someone you thought you were friends with doesn’t like you or doesn’t care about you at all
  12. You are a bad sucker for flattery. :’c
  13. Criticism really hurts even when you know it’s for your own good.
  14. Your opinions are easily shaped by what others around you think
  15. When you make new friends you’re already quite quick to do favours for them

Does this sound like you? If so, read on…

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